Can You Love Two People at One Time?

There are a number of different definitions for love, and there’s no doubt that we can hold more than one person in our hearts at one time. But what about romantic love, the kind of love that inspires you to write poetry and consider spending your life with someone? Can you feel that way about two different people? Biology vs Society Our biology wants us to procreate. And if you look at our cavemen brains, that procreation can only happen when we have multiple partners. With more than one partner, the likelihood of having progeny is greatly increased. But we’re smarter than biology, aren’t we? Society tells us that we should grow up, get married, and have children with that one person. That runs very much in contrast to what our tiny brains may be urging us to do. And while some people thrive in a monogamous relationship, there are some of us who long for something more. When One Person Isn’t Enough When you’re looking for “the one,” it almost seems ridiculous to think that one person can fulfill everything on your wish list for a partner. He or she could be a great companion and friend but lacking as a lover. Do we marry for sex or companionship? For the majority of us, the clear goal is to find the complete package, but that doesn’t always work in the real world. And what if your chosen partner did fulfill all of the desires you have; would you be bored? According to an article in Psychology Today , an emotional dissonance is created when we love more than one person in a romantic way. And that may just wreak havoc on our well being. Another article in Elite Daily states that polyamory is not possible. Both this writer and the one at Psychology Today feel that romantic love is with one person, while a lust can occur with another (or more than one). And it is usually the lust that we mistake for love. What Do You Think? There’s no definitive answer as to whether or not we can love two people at one time, but many polyamorous unions have proven that it is possible and healthy. Just because it’s not yet readily accepted as status quo doesn’t mean it doesn’t work. What do you think?