Context is everything

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  Sir Tink

  Sep 3, 2023

  Very well written, erections occur it's a natural state and I like having one and not being shamed by the nudists that think sexuality isn't part of the nudist experience.

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  Robert

  Oct 6, 2023

  Amen.

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  T-Ryan

  Oct 11, 2023

  So well stated, thank you for writing it.

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  C

  Nov 14, 2023

  Could not agree more. The way some nudists treat all erections is body shaming and not sex positive either.

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  playfulcouple2022

  Nov 18, 2023

  I agree that the subtle erotic sensual energy is a natural part of being nude in public and that spontaneous arousal resulting in an occasional erection is natural. Of course, the context is everything. I love your story about what happened at the hot spring resort when the guy you were chatting with spontaneously lost control and got a full erection. Your reaction was the best one. You felt that it was nice to know that he was attracted to you and turned on from seeing you naked. You understood that what he did was not intentional. You also admired his erection. What could be more natural than that?

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• ME

  Member

  Nov 20, 2023

  Really great stuff to see written here, better yet written by a real woman who likes to stand out and show herself bare naked to everybody in any place where nudity is allowed. This woman really understands a man's mind!
  By the other hand I tend to think about how common is some people showing an excellent speach, but their acts does not represent what they say...

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  Johnbuff3

  Jan 19, 2024

  Very well thought out and written. You've gained my utmost respect.

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  Sunnyside_Steve

  Jan 25, 2024

  A lovely story. I'm left wondering if, although there was no negative reaction, did you give any indication to him that you were okay with it or even took it as a compliment? If I was in that situation, a subtle affirmation that you were fine with what was happening would mean a lot. Not as a sign to take any relationship further, just to put me at ease that you're comfortable with my reaction to your presence.

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• ME

  Member

  Apr 17, 2024

  We frequent nude beaches, and I will get an erection my wife loves it. Its only natural and as long ss no one is offended it ok. Glad to hear you were ok with chatting with your gentleman friend. I have never had anyonevsay anything about mine just a smile and nod.

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  playfulcouple2022

  Apr 24, 2024

  [quote]We frequent nude beaches, and I will get an erection my wife loves it. Its only natural and as long ss no one is offended it ok. Glad to hear you were ok with chatting with your gentleman friend. I have never had anyonevsay anything about mine just a smile and nod.[/quote] It's only natural that you would get an erection when you were at the nude beach with your wife, but I would have liked to know more about the context. Were other people sitting near you? Did your wife deliberately do anything to cause you to get an erection? She probably liked the idea that other people could see you that way. One nice thing about nude beaches is that people are seldom offended just because a man has an erection. They expect that could happen especially when a man is with his wife or girlfriend and both of them are nude.

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• ME

  MemberOriginal Poster

  Apr 25, 2024

  [quote]A lovely story. I'm left wondering if, although there was no negative reaction, did you give any indication to him that you were okay with it or even took it as a compliment? If I was in that situation, a subtle affirmation that you were fine with what was happening would mean a lot. Not as a sign to take any relationship further, just to put me at ease that you're comfortable with my reaction to your presence.[/quote] I guess what I'd say to this is sort of also about the context. We'd been interacting and mildly flirting, yes, but nothing had gotten to the point of indicating we were going to do anything more than that. His energy definitely told me he was quite interested in having sex with me, and part of me wanted to engage in that avenue. But it wasn't really where I was in the moment, and I've learned not to let myself drift away too far from where I know myself to be. So, without inviting and leading on his sexual intentions or, conversely, embarrassing him further, I don't know what I might've done or said, other than simply not react negatively. To some degree, what you bring up is an interesting thing about how there isn't really a language for the subtleties we might want to express in our interactions and the way we feel. We can't unload the whole contents of our heads and make ourselves known fully, to others. This is especially true where it comes to the complexities of our sexuality. How do you shorthand to someone the thought that 'I really like you a lot and it feels really special, intimate, and delightfully, playfully sensual to be naked with you. I'm pleased and flattered you're turned on and I really do honor your desire to have sex with me. I have zero problems with your erect penis, which is beautiful and incredibly hot, by the way, but at this time, having nothing to do with you, personally, I'm not wanting to be pulled in the direction of engaging in sexual activity with anyone.' If I could convey all that with a look, with body language, or a couple words, I would. But... yeah... it's always more complicated than what it may otherwise seem.

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  shihoin

  Apr 26, 2024

  You're a great writer, WaterLilly. I'm impressed!

  But I agree with everything you said.
  A few years ago my wife and I were at an "adults-only" nudist venue, playing pool alone late at night. We were joined by a younger couple. While interacting, drinking and playing with them, I suddenly noticed the young man was sporting a full erection. To be fair, I didn't know whether his erection was just spontaneous and alcohol induced, or was caused by watching my wife "energetically" playing pool naked. Mostly, I was concerned about my wife's reaction upon noticing his erect state. But to my surprise, she continued interacting with him completely naturally. His GF was also herself undaunted.
  Here's the "thing." There was nothing in his overall behavior that indicated prurient interest. He was actually very friendly and a bit shy. So my wife saw no reason to bring attention to his erection or feel self-conscious about having possibly caused his erection. We continued playing pool and socializing until the wee hours.

  So yes; context is everything, as well as behavior. A "perfect gentleman", even with an erection, is still a "perfect gentleman." I'm glad my wife understood this.

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  playfulcouple2022

  Apr 26, 2024

  [quote]Here's the "thing." There was nothing in his overall behavior that indicated prurient interest. He was actually very friendly and a bit shy. So my wife saw no reason to bring attention to his erection or feel self-conscious about having possibly caused his erection. We continued playing pool and socializing until the wee hours...So yes; context is everything, as well as behavior. A "perfect gentleman", even with an erection, is still a "perfect gentleman." I'm glad my wife understood this.[/quote] I couldn't have said it better. A "perfect gentleman", even with an erection, is still a "perfect gentleman." When that guy got an erection while playing pool with your wife and you, your wife handled the situation appropriately by not bringing attention to his erection and by continuing to socialize as if nothing were out of the ordinary. In Water Lilly's story, the man she was chatting with " lost control and hit a point of no return because he very quickly experienced a full erection". Clearly, it was not his intention to exhibit an erection in front of her. It just happened. Water Lilly was flattered that he was turned on from seeing her naked. She felt that was completely natural. But where does one draw the line? If a man intentionally gets an erection in front of a woman he doesn't know well, is that okay? The situation when your wife and you were playing pool with the other couple appears a bit more ambiguous to me (as compared to Lilly's story). You wrote, "I didn't know whether his erection was just spontaneous and alcohol induced, or was caused by watching my wife "energetically" playing pool naked." I think the story is especially exciting because of the idea that the guy may have lost control from seeing your beautiful wife naked. But you don't really know what his intentions were. Just because he was shy didn't mean that he didn't enjoy showing off an erection. That doesn't mean to say that the person was not a gentleman.

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  playfulcouple2022

  Apr 30, 2024

  [quote]I've had tons of other such experiences over the years, where it's just not been any kind of big deal and -- in fact -- totally natural for erections to occur. To me it feels better if there's no arbitrary prohibition on it, but also if guys can manage to gauge the context and try to avoid being over the top with it. I just like it better if it doesn't have to be a point of awkwardness or embarrassment for anyone.[/quote] I enjoyed this story. The person did not intend to get an erection. It just happened. The best thing to do in that situation was for both persons to continue chatting as if nothing was unusual. Shortly after we were married, my wife and I used to visit a rustic nudist camp. She was in her mid 20s at the time. I was standing talking with the owner when my wife bent down to get something out of our bag. The sight of her nude body in that position suddenly caused me to get an erection. I was hoping that the owner wouldn't notice it but, of course, he did. He wasn't very happy about it. It would have been better if he understood that my erection was not deliberate. I would be interested in hearing from guys who unintentionally got an erection while chatting with a woman at a nudist club. How did you manage the situation? Were you embarrassed? How did the woman react?

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  Fran

  Aug 23, 2024

  Love how deeply are you able to describe your thougts and feelings Lili!

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  Carlo69

  Aug 31, 2024

  Very well Written so refreshing that there are people that feel that it is a natural thing that happens to most guys.

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  Michael

  Oct 25, 2024

  Sadly here in New Zealand erections are frowned apon and since we must have a towel to cover up in case they. Which in all my years at naturist clubs or camps no guy walks around erect sadly as it is so nice in the right setting to see a guy fully erect and i love laying in the warm sun fully hard.
  As a few of my pictures say in my profile lol.

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  Vanessa

  Jan 14, 2025

  As a girl, I like seeing a nice stiff erection. It's like a subtle compliment in a natural way haha

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  BnTNCCpl

  Jan 16, 2025

  Last spring hubby and I were at Apollo Beach and we set up about 20 yards away from a single guy. After we set up I was looking towards him and then all of a sudden he stands up sporting almost a full erection. He then walks over to us and greets us. We invite him to join us. He brings his things over and we chat for a while. After a while his erection cools down to a large semi. He was uncircumcised so his penis head was just peeping out. Soon I notice his penis weeping. So he must have been turned on a bit which in a way made me feel a bit aroused as I took it as a compliment! A great afternoon on our favorite nude beach!

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  Jim

  Jul 20, 2025

  My hat goes off to youI appreciate the openness you exercised and also appreciate a woman speaking her mind! You are definitely one of a kinddefinitely a much to do about nothing!!! Its a shame that at a nudist resort we still cant be fully ourselves the way the lifestyle professes! Again THANKS for your so well put opinion!!!

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  Jim

  Jul 20, 2025

  My hat goes off to youI appreciate the openness you exercised and also appreciate a woman speaking her mind! You are definitely one of a kinddefinitely a much to do about nothing!!! Its a shame that at a nudist resort we still cant be fully ourselves the way the lifestyle professes! Again THANKS for your so well put opinion!!!

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  James

  Aug 2, 2025

  [quote]I'm a straight female nudist who loves the subtle erotic-sexual energy that (to me) is a natural part of being nude in public. So it'd be contrary to that attitude if I wasn't okay with arousal being part of the equation. I agree, arousal and the inevitable result of an occasional erection are natural. Personally, I adore penises and definitely enjoy gawking. Far as I'm concerned there are few things more amazing than a gorgeous hard-on, and under the right circumstances I'm not at all *offended* if one happens, and the owner opts not to hide it. I know how much I love showing and being seen nude, and I don't care what any traditional nudist wants to say about it, there's a buzz of sensuality about it which is undeniable. I always get mildly aroused (at least) from the experience, so I can only imagine the same has to be true for guys. So if I'm feeling some arousal from being nude, I can't deny the same to guys who are enjoying the sensual vibe. From what I observe it's actually rare that a guy is totally flaccid, anyway. At the places I go nude, which is beaches, hot springs, swimming holes, music festivals, parties, etc., it sure looks to me like most of the penises I see are showing the signs of cursory arousal. But just the same, the occasion is just as rare when I've seen a guy out in the open with a full, straight-up boner. So I gotta assume that it's not *that* difficult to keep it low-key and not be constantly on the verge of having a rager. Am I wrong? Seriously, I don't even know. So, "not minding" if an erection does happen is different -- for me -- than being okay with it being the norm. I guess it's because an erection is a pretty much unignorable sign of sexual intent. The sexuality of the situation isn't subtle if it's made obvious by the appearance of an hard on. And I'm not saying that isn't sometimes totally okay! It is, and there are those moments where it feels great to dispense with the subtlety and be more open and honest with it. It feels especially good to admit that half the point of getting nude with one-another is to relish the nourishing deliciousness of the sexuality. One experience I've had with it stands out (no pun intended LOL). I was at a hot spring resort and had met this guy. It was middle of the day and we'd been chatting and just kinda casually hanging-out for a couple hours or so. We got along really well, had a lot to talk about. He was a really cute guy and we were having a good time getting to know one another. Later in the day we'd been apart from each other for a while, and then we randomly were walking toward each other out by the main pool. We stood opposite one another, chatting again, and while doing so he started to get an erection. It happened slowly and by the time his penis was standing straight out I could tell he was feeling awkward about it. We were standing very much out in the open, in full view of the entire bathing/sunning area at the resort. And at that point he obviously lost control and hit a point of no return, because he very quickly experienced a full erection, right there in front of me. And there was something about the whole interaction that struck me as precious. Like it really did seem completely natural -- nothing wrong with it at all, like it was nice to know he was attracted to me and turned on from seeing me naked. He had a really nice penis and an even lovelier erection, and I enjoyed the opportunity to see it. There were no negative reactions from anyone despite it being so visible and obvious -- like, the sky didn't come crashing down or anything. I've had tons of other such experiences over the years, where it's just not been any kind of big deal and -- in fact -- totally natural for erections to occur. To me it feels better if there's no arbitrary prohibition on it, but also if guys can manage to gauge the context and try to avoid being over the top with it. I just like it better if it doesn't have to be a point of awkwardness or embarrassment for anyone.[/quote] I agree totally and am the same or similar, and when I got up the courage to just let mine be, which is rare in public anyway, neither showing it off or hiding it, I was walking down a mixed beach and (I am mostly gay) passed lots of men and women who didnt notice at all, as we didnt look there on each other, but then an exceptionally gorgeous 20 something woman walked past staring at it intensely, and I apologized and she laughed and said, I was the one staring at it, no need to apologize for that, and I said then I dont mind at all either, and we went on our separate ways, and it was just easy natural and without pressures or any hurt feelings or unpleasantness and I enjoy that memory more than almost aby other on the bech.

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