My Kind of Soft

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• JA

  

  JamesOriginal Poster

  Aug 24, 2020

  [quote]really nice share I like it[/quote] Awesome. I'd love to.

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• JA

  

  JamesOriginal Poster

  Nov 7, 2020

  [quote]I could not have put it better. Soft, tender lovemaking is just the best! My husband and I have been together for 46 years and now we are retired we do not have to rush out of bed in the morning so we can spend time kissing and cuddling each morning. We also love giving each other slow tender full body massages. As we live in Cairns tropical north Queensland we can be naked for most of the year.[/quote] thats amazing guys... awesome stuff. nude most of the year is enviable too.

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• DA

  

  Dave

  Feb 1, 2021

  I love this post so much!!!!
  The beauty and sensuality is so erotic and exhilarating!!!

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• JA

  

  JamesOriginal Poster

  Feb 2, 2021

  [quote]I love this post so much!!!! The beauty and sensuality is so erotic and exhilarating!!![/quote] Hi Dave. Thanks for the comment on the page. You are correct, there is beauty and power in soft, intimate and deliberate play with other bodies., This is something I want to explore more of.

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• PI

  

  Pieter

  May 15, 2021

  It's like in a good dream....

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• JE

  

  Jeff

  Jun 21, 2021

  Love it mate, theres room for all types of sex between men.

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• JA

  

  JamesOriginal Poster

  Jun 21, 2021

  [quote]Love it mate, theres room for all types of sex between men.[/quote] Yes I definitely agree with you. And for me my piggy side isn't in conflict with this part of myself at all. But I don't see sex as fundamentally degrading or wrong or anything like the negative baggage that is layered into us no matter what our orientation or interest over a lifetime as long as it's consensual and between adults and shame is not anything I accept anymore... so I think that has really freed me up to appreciate the more nuanced and gentle sensuality that I am empowered with and to share it.

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• AL

  

  Allen

  Jun 21, 2021

  [quote]As I get older I want more and more tender intimate and romantic sexual pleasure and freedom to admit that I am gentle soft and like being vulnerable and open with men. Passionate kissing, caresses and whole body massages are the best. Slow deliberate penetration. Oral worship and lavishing the anus of the other. Men are wonderful creatures filled with true beauty and kindness if allowed to be. I seek others who want this too[/quote] I couldnt agree more with this! As I get older, this is EXACTLY what I crave!!

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• JA

  

  JamesOriginal Poster

  Jun 21, 2021

  [quote]As I get older I want more and more tender intimate and romantic sexual pleasure and freedom to admit that I am gentle soft and like being vulnerable and open with men.Passionate kissing, caresses and whole body massages are the best. Slow deliberate penetration. Oral worship and lavishing the anus of the other. Men are wonderful creatures filled with true beauty and kindness if allowed to be.I seek others who want this too I couldnt agree more with this! As I get older, this is EXACTLY what I crave!![/quote] Very much glad you are finding the same way forward.

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• MI

  

  Miracle

  Jun 21, 2021

  Don't we all want this too? But it takes mastering the art of communication and consent. That's why I'd much rather talk to anyone first, rather than go cruising in silence with handkerchief codes. There's so much more to it.

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• JA

  

  JamesOriginal Poster

  Jun 25, 2021

  [quote]As I get older I want more and more tender intimate and romantic sexual pleasure and freedom to admit that I am gentle soft and like being vulnerable and open with men.Passionate kissing, caresses and whole body massages are the best. Slow deliberate penetration. Oral worship and lavishing the anus of the other. Men are wonderful creatures filled with true beauty and kindness if allowed to be.I seek others who want this tooI couldnt agree more with this! As I get older, this is EXACTLY what I crave!! Very much glad you are finding the same way forward.[/quote] It's so beautiful and natural to me and my interest is furthering the same thing in guys that are not afraid to admit they need it.

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• AL

  

  Allen

  Jun 25, 2021

  [quote]Don't we all want this too? But it takes mastering the art of communication and consent. That's why I'd much rather talk to anyone first, rather than go cruising in silence with handkerchief codes. There's so much more to it.[/quote] I agree. I learned a long time ago that anonymous hookups were just not fulfilling for me. Id much rather connect with someone on a friendship level. Discover some mutual interests. And develop a degree of affinity for each other. It definitely requires a degree of assertiveness and vulnerability for me. Ive also had to learn those skills.

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• JA

  

  JamesOriginal Poster

  Jun 25, 2021

  [quote]Don't we all want this too? But it takes mastering the art of communication and consent. That's why I'd much rather talk to anyone first, rather than go cruising in silence with handkerchief codes. There's so much more to it.I agree. I learned a long time ago that anonymous hookups were just not fulfilling for me. Id much rather connect with someone on a friendship level. Discover some mutual interests. And develop a degree of affinity for each other. It definitely requires a degree of assertiveness and vulnerability for me. Ive also had to learn those skills.[/quote]
  
  I have been learning about pleasure and freedom to work with another man who needs that private depth of life and being open to exploring directed and undirected...I am thankful that I seek it too. I'm into the soft feminine and vulnerable aspects of the pleasure of being open and honest with your
  man. There's not much more than that in the world and it will take time for me to develop routines again for my brothers selflessly and then for his happiness and I am always open to exploring very well and that is beautiful and very necessary...

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• ME

  Member

  Jun 26, 2021

  [quote]Don't we all want this too? But it takes mastering the art of communication and consent. That's why I'd much rather talk to anyone first, rather than go cruising in silence with handkerchief codes. There's so much more to it.[/quote] I've been following this thread for a few days now. It's nice to know there are actually other guys who feel the same way as I do. As I get older and more comfortable with my sexuality this is the type of situation I am learning to enjoy. Anonymous hook ups make me very nervous. I feel I am more relaxed in a situation grounded in friendship. Where both guys can be open and comfortable with each other. Not so much taking from each other but rather both sharing in the moment together.. That is what I desire.

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• JA

  

  JamesOriginal Poster

  Jun 28, 2021

  [quote]Don't we all want this too? But it takes mastering the art of communication and consent. That's why I'd much rather talk to anyone first, rather than go cruising in silence with handkerchief codes. There's so much more to it.[/quote] I don't know if that's the case. When I was younger and still very much traumatized by abuse suffered, I couldn't accept anyone touching me for any reason. The first iterations of touch were in heavy BDSM with a very good and patient teacher who understood that I had some serious issues and that it would take a while to work them out. In this time period, I would only accept hard and painful touch as appropriate and it was endurable, and even pleasurable sometimes. But it was a kind of intimacy and I learned from that. Of course, this was all about communication and consent. Verbal and non verbal (I never did the hanky thing I just don't understand it), intuitive and assertive, passive and active, all the ways to read the body the eyes and listen to words for the important information and... my personal favourite: tell Sir what the objective of that training was (I wasn't allowed to know, had to be present and paying attention). The first time was slow and frustrating but he helped me over that and the second time was faster and by the third fourth and fifth trainings I was learning skills very fast and knowing innately what was being taught. This method teaches you to go inside and to feel outwards and understand the acts you are being asked to perform have a purpose and a coherent meaning. It was great training for where I was in life and allowed me to move forward and do more healing. One of the things people don't realize about cruising culture especially in the 60's 70's and 80's is how repressed, dangerous and illegal cruising was and what the consequences for getting caught was, The number of men who would actually meet for a face to face was very small until the late 80's in most places. I haven't been cruising since the 90's, the culture of mutual respect, reciprocation and discretion with very subtle but sophisticated ways to communicate non verbally was replaced by an aggressive bitchy entitlement culture that put me off it. Of course I had more growing to do, and you're right, cruising culture is an adolescent culture in terms of how much richness and 4depth/history is actually there. Post war we were inventing ourselves and our movement. It's easy to look back now and see that this wasn't a perfect world and that a today solution would have worked then.

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• JU

  

  Justin

  Jun 28, 2021

  100% agree!

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