Asking a lady for sex

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• ME

  Member

  Sep 9, 2014

  [quote]Hello all,
  Here I was on a beach all alone and I happened to see a very sexy female out there. I wanted to have sex with her then and there but couldn't ask her.. Can you please suggest me what are some polite and sexy ways to ask a lady for sex when on a beach or in different situations?
  Thank you[/quote]ask her" hi! wanna fuck?
  if she reply fuck off then walk away :) otherwise is ur lucky day!

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• KY

  

  kykris

  Sep 13, 2014

  I would think you would say hi and ask if she would like some company.
  

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• JU

  

  Juliamarilyn

  Jan 5, 2015

  I think it would depends upon the what kinds of lady is she and if she also looking for sex with guy like you call her and ask for sex or what kinds of sex she likes. You can show her some videos as likehttp://analtube4u.com/3363/sexy-german-teacher-double-penetrated-in-school/if you feel she like that.It may help turn on her mood for having sex.

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• JA

  

  James

  May 7, 2018

  OK, I'm a gay dude and you'd think I would not know...but I do. The answer is, single males should never ever ever ask women on the beach for sex. Why? Because you are one of twenty or thirty in the last hour that ogled, whistled, glanced, chatted obliquely or asked for sex. Nudist women especially should be left well enough along.

  I appreciate you are horny. But if a lady wants to fuck you, she will come up and tell you. Most ladies on most days are not in the market for a casual screw or even the idea of it. That's not inherent to being a woman, it's our culture and the harassment women endure. So, there are places where it IS ok to ask a woman for sex, and those are swingers events, online in sex chat forums, sex workers or at a sexual services establishment.

  There is no good way to do this at all. The thing is, women know that every man who isn't gay who talks to them wants to fuck them. They know this. So you are losing already because if she was interested she took care of it. Trying to deceive, beat around the bush, coerce, argue etc etec etc are all terrible ideas.

  If you want to meet women, try this. Say hello and wave when you see a woman smiling at you. Don't do anything else ever unless she talks to you. Listen to her. Do only as little or as much as the comment, anecdote, task etc requires. Never expect anything in return for kindness done, do it for its own sake or not at all.

  If you see men gawking or leering, take care of it quietly. Don't look to be noticed. Just take care of it. Call out other men who are being rude or lewd. Matter of fact. I have respect for the women here and this isn't acceptable, please move on we don't accept this kind of behavior here. Put your sex drive in the back seat. Get a gay wingman and let him introduce you to his friends. Learn their names interests, and be kind and friendly at all times. Do not hit on any of them. As I said, she will come get you if she wants it.

  After one or two years of a nice nudist social group which you get along with, you will have made contacts with some women as friends. If any are particularly close, that's a sign that things might progress. This might happen much faster or slower. Bringing romance or sex into social situations is always sticky and there are risks you may lose the friend. The best way to proceed is to say that you are very happy with the relationship but are looking for someone to date casually or even have sex with casually...that's rarer but not impossible and you were wondering if she has any advice to give you. She'll tell you that no, she doesn't, yes she does, talk to her, or let me introduce you, or she will blush and fumble a bit.

  If you can't get a woman to advise you that's a bad sign. Good luck

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• SP

  

  Sparky538

  May 8, 2018

  Nudistpig, Agree 100% with what you wrote here and think the questioner would be wise to listen to your sage advice. you would make a great wing man, friend and consigliori to keep the less intuitive of us out of the dog house. Again, well said.

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• BY

  

  Byplay

  Oct 27, 2018

  Wow, Nudistpig, how do you stay gay when you know exactly how to treat women? Excellent advice, so what would you say is the best way for a man to ask another man for sex at the beach? ;-)

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• JA

  

  James

  Nov 15, 2018

  [quote]Gay, bi or straight, what nudistpig posted is plain common sense and respect. Personally, I believe the biggest mistake supposed "swingers" make is thinking that simply because a female can separate emotions from the pure physical pleasure that sex brings into life is assuming these females have little/no morals and they will sleep with anyone that asks. When doing this, men strip women of dignity and pride and even the most ardent female swinger is gonna tell the dude to have sex with himself. It doesn't cost a thing to treat anyone with respect and the rewards just may be worth the effort.[/quote] Respecting others is so fundamental. It's also sexy, constructive and fun. I have lots of encounters with men who id as straight, for example, not because I push it (do enjoy it, just as with any person I am attracted to), because I am ultra respectful, super careful and give the support and space needed always. If HE decides to be curious about anything, HE will chose. I don't need to concern myself with it. Women are no different by and large and the power dynamics are similar. Letting women have the freedom of choice and of freedom from choice liberates both women from constant directed attention and men from the cheapness of the tactic.

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• JA

  

  James

  Jan 12, 2019

  [quote]I don't even flirt unless the Female starts it first. Today's "rules of engagement" are such a gray area, things that use to be an ice breaker can now get you in trouble- I let the environment decide if I make a move first- not into the drama I have seen first hand when a Male shows his interest and the female goes biolistic on him,..., in public and at parties and get-togethers. A very different world than I grew up in as a younger Male- 1960-70's, happily married by the 80's and single now in the 2004-2019's. Heck back then the gals would ask the guy to bed them.[/quote] As a man watching men try to pick up women for 47 years now I can tell you when a woman yells at a dude for bothering her with some tacky line or physical aggression she's entitled to it. Here's the rules. Respect the independence of both women and men. Do not assume that because you want to have sex with someone they want it with you. Don't treat women as "thing to get sex from"and consent means saying yes end of consent is no. There's no grey area there. Women get catcalled whistled at insulted prodded poked and harassed all day long everywhere they go. Upt to 50 incidents a day. But definitely she should be much more easy going when dudes use cheesy lines n canned pick up artist moves one after the other like locusts. I realize I have a bit of advantage as a gay dude but getting women to go along for adventures or for play has never been difficult or confusing. Women still ask men to bed. Just not the ones who don't show or earn respect. I assume you're also going to events for your generation not frosh weeks and spring break Daytona, or Burning Man?

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• JA

  

  James

  Jan 12, 2019

  [quote]I don't even flirt unless the Female starts it first. Today's "rules of engagement" are such a gray area, things that use to be an ice breaker can now get you in trouble- I let the environment decide if I make a move first- not into the drama I have seen first hand when a Male shows his interest and the female goes biolistic on him,..., in public and at parties and get-togethers. A very different world than I grew up in as a younger Male- 1960-70's, happily married by the 80's and single now in the 2004-2019's. Heck back then the gals would ask the guy to bed them.As a man watching men try to pick up women for 47 years now I can tell you when a woman yells at a dude for bothering her with some tacky line or physical aggression she's entitled to it. Here's the rules. Respect the independence of both women and men. Do not assume that because you want to have sex with someone they want it with you. Don't treat women as "thing to get sex from"and consent means saying yes end of consent is no. There's no grey area there. Women get catcalled whistled at insulted prodded poked and harassed all day long everywhere they go. Upt to 50 incidents a day. But definitely she should be much more easy going when dudes use cheesy lines n canned pick up artist moves one after the other like locusts. I realize I have a bit of advantage as a gay dude but getting women to go along for adventures or for play has never been difficult or confusing. Women still ask men to bed. Just not the ones who don't show or earn respect. I assume you're also going to events for your generation not frosh weeks and spring break Daytona, or Burning Man? Nudistpig, I totally agree with everything ya have contributed to this discussion. The thing that stands out the most to me personally, is that ya dwell on RESPECT. Without that one characteristic, even sex isn't a worthwhile undertaking. If a person doesn't have a modicum of respect for their partner, can they really put forth the effort to make it an enjoyable experience for BOTH parties??? At the very least, respect the other person for having chose ya are a worthy partner!!! Trust me, without giving respect, it will become harder and harder for anyone...bi, gay or straight...to make any type of connection toward the ultimate goal...mindblowing sex.[/quote] I've lived a life where sex has been a constant experience of exploration and learning with the good fortune to have had some fantastic teachers of the regular and the more advanced sexual skills. I made mistakes. I have caused pain and been hurt in return... and that's where the need for respect comes from. Breaking the cycle of shitty treatment or even just the cycle of indifference and selfishness. I have watched the BDSM scene I had so much respect for collapse into a complete mess. Same with the sex parties here in town. I see it in the bars, the clubs and online. No doubt I grew up a bit myself lol and have more need to be connected on a more fundamental level to each and every lover but that's not all of it. You nail the point in saying even the respect of choice is enough in some cases. I still get giddy when I realize someone is attracted and expressing it openly and subtly. That feeling more than anything keeps me young. You can't experience it without respect. Truth be told it's pretty much as far as I go most times now but that's all good too. Cheers.

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• PE

  

  Pete

  Jan 13, 2019

  To nudist pig. You and I are "friends" on TS as well as TN. Agree ..... certainly respect SHOULD be in the picture and from my experience, as a single Bi (though leans more to gay male), that is what happens most of the time. Just as a reminder though.. respect should go both ways. Ive been in situations where I've been polite and respectful to a woman , had a great conversation, fun flirtiness , bought she and her hubby a drink etc... then.... another dude comes along who's 6'3" and hunky , more muscular etc (or whatever her attraction button happens to be) ...and I get dropped like a hot potato. And its happened the other way to my favor and Ive seen the look of the other guy. Not sure what my point is or if it follows the OP's question (though it doesn't really matter since he hasn't been on here in 4 years. ) Guess I'm just saying that being courteous and being respectful though always a great thing to do doesn't mean its going to play in your favor. Some women will appreciate it ....but some are totally superficial and want the best thing they can get at that moment. Some women like the "bad boys" ... the ones rough around the edges, or the backwards baseball cap, or the 10 tatoos guys .....more than the well polished and polite men.

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• JA

  

  James

  Jan 20, 2019

  [quote]To nudist pig. You and I are "friends" on TS as well as TN. Agree ..... certainly respect SHOULD be in the picture and from my experience, as a single Bi (though leans more to gay male), that is what happens most of the time. Just as a reminder though.. respect should go both ways. Ive been in situations where I've been polite and respectful to a woman , had a great conversation, fun flirtiness , bought she and her hubby a drink etc... then.... another dude comes along who's 6'3" and hunky , more muscular etc (or whatever her attraction button happens to be) ...and I get dropped like a hot potato. And its happened the other way to my favor and Ive seen the look of the other guy. Not sure what my point is or if it follows the OP's question (though it doesn't really matter since he hasn't been on here in 4 years. ) Guess I'm just saying that being courteous and being respectful though always a great thing to do doesn't mean its going to play in your favor. Some women will appreciate it ....but some are totally superficial and want the best thing they can get at that moment. Some women like the "bad boys" ... the ones rough around the edges, or the backwards baseball cap, or the 10 tatoos guys .....more than the well polished and polite men.[/quote] Bro. She gonna choose who she gonna choose and let's be honest a couple of beverages is not any leverage over outcomes in the meat market. I get you. It's shitty to invest in a potential hookup and have her choose anyone else. But it's visibly what it is to everyone involved. She knows why you bought the drinks. So... in my view offered gifts for potential reward are not the best way to show respect. One, they are strangers. Two, unless you buy drinks and disappear, it's obviously not random kindness (but not rude either). You should have bought the dude the drinks. ;) Joking... Here's the thing. You're not owed anything for social engagement. Bad boy or dapper debonair... sex is always the bigger investment for women because of potential pregnancy making them the deciding party most often. Being a nice guy doesn't always pay off but it's the right thing to do.

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• ME

  Member

  Jan 20, 2019

  I ALWAYS respect a lady. I would never come right out and ask for sex. If I am as thoughtful as I can be and get lucky fine. If I get shot out of the saddle because of a younger, better body, better looking gentleman, well, congrats to him. I'll still be respectful for that lady. I'll keep my distance of course but, i'd never say anything bad to her, for her choice.

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• JA

  

  James

  Jun 18, 2019

  [quote]I ALWAYS respect a lady. I would never come right out and ask for sex. If I am as thoughtful as I can be and get lucky fine. If I get shot out of the saddle because of a younger, better body, better looking gentleman, well, congrats to him. I'll still be respectful for that lady. I'll keep my distance of course but, i'd never say anything bad to her, for her choice.[/quote] Not all ladies feel respected by indirect chivalry and courting by subtleties either. I have several women friends for whom "wanna fuck" is a perfectly normal thing to say and I do consider them ladies because they are fine human beings. I think the important thing here is that respect is a dialogue between the two parties and it requires us to be careful and pay attention to others. The idea that negotiating sex is either aggression or subterfuge is a bad anthropology text from my undergrad. There are no alphas and betas. That is simply not how women choose men, although some women may seem to. The role of the man is not always as suitor, and the role of the woman is not to decide yes or no, good lord that is limiting. Maybe there is a dance to be had for the sake of the dance. Maybe there is a bit of beer and a lot of hormones and it's to the bathroom. Maybe casual sex isn't the recipe we're after, maybe it's intimacy or human touch. Consent starts well before you wanna shag. It starts with yourself, your desires, your needs and whether or not those make sense in the present and with the people at hand. Then it goes to their state of mind, their person, their interests and reading the words or between the lines. One of the results of a very predatory hook up culture is that women say no far more often than they maybe want to and are instinctively protective because they get mobbed and it goes stale fast. Making space where women don't feel pressured or under continuous demand but can rather make choices and be open themselves might be a stepping stone to better times. The Wodaabe have a mating ceremony where the men dress in a kind of drag for the women and in which they are judged for their effort and care as suitable or not for mating and marriage. This ended the bride fights and the paying for women by richer men. We might learn from that.

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• LO

  

  lover_cz4955

  Dec 3, 2019

  I have a friend who is good looking well built nice respectfully would not say shit if his mouth was full of it.every body really likes him but he never gets lucky.i ask the ladies he has tried to date.what's wrong.there uniform response is he is to nice.0n the other hand I am talkative really like women tell joke s keep them laughing and end up making out like a bandit.my theory is his puts them of a pedestal a they are reluctant to step off that pedestal and become primal humor works my friend.

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• JA

  

  James

  Jul 27, 2020

  [quote]Hello all,Here I was on a beach all alone and I happened to see a very sexy female out there. I wanted to have sex with her then and there but couldn't ask her.. Can you please suggest me what are some polite and sexy ways to ask a lady for sex when on a beach or in different situations?Thank you Be the one guy that does not ask for sex. Be nice, ask for a lunch date, or a coffe. Be a friend she can open up to, as she does you can open up to her. Tell her your secrets but not the sleazy ones. Turning on a woman, most women is done slowly, days, weeks. Trust is truly earned not given. If you get alone and naked with her and sex is on the menu you better be a good fuck. My secret, she gets three orgasims before I get my first one....[/quote] This is solid advice all around.

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• JA

  

  James

  Jun 9, 2021

  [quote]I think it would depends upon the what kinds of lady is she and if she also looking for sex with guy like you call her and ask for sex or what kinds of sex she likes. You can show her some videos as like https://analtube4u.com/3363/sexy-german-teacher-double-penetrated-in-school/if you feel she like that.It may help turn onhermood for having sex.[/quote] Show her videos just out of the blue on ... the beach. Does this work for you ever and if it does please let us know where...

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• ME

  Member

  Nov 16, 2021

  are you serious? matey, stay away from nude beaches. you dont ask. its people ljke you, who are why my wife no longer does nude beaches.

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• RU

  rubina

  May 25, 2022

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